Need help understanding men? This is such a common problem, many women have been in this frustrating situation. We have been texting and talking on the phone since January 2014. At first, we planned on several meetings, but they were canceled due to his work and mine. I feel comfortable talking with him and he always initiates the calls. I can tell he is a smart guy. We can talk for hours from one topic to another including sharing se. He even shares his fantasy of being with me. When I am confused or upset, he supports me through calls or texts. I enjoy texting him. I really want to meet him, He says he wants to meet me too, but he also says he prefers knowing me bit by bit, talking for hours on the phone. One day, he says, we will meet up. All in all, he is a nice person. But, I know that this will not be healthy in the long run. I feel that ignoring his calls and texts are not the proper way, since we have good relation and respect on each other. I kindly need your advice and input, Ronnie.. Thank you so much.. I know you want to be nice, but bottom line, you are NOT in a relationship. Truth is, you share a fantasy and he is wasting your time. You stay because you hope to meet him someday. How is this respectful or honest on his part? One thing I know for sure, if you decide to talk to him about this, he will argue with you and tell you he has good intentions. He will promise to meet you soon. But that will just be more meaningless words to keep you in his game. Think about it logically for a moment and put your heart aside. Why would a man want to talk on the phone and text for more than six months and not meet you? If this man wanted to date you, he would done so by now. Seriously, how much more is there to know? He is using you and taking advantage of your good nature for emotional support and fantasy s. My best dating advice for you is: 1 Think about yourself first, not him. Think about how much time you have invested and wasted with this man. More than six months! Think about how you have given your heart away to a man who will not meet you. Think about how you are attached to a man you will never kiss or have dinner with. Then stop texting him and talking to him on the phone. You owe him nothing. Not all men are like this, but understanding men who are like this will keep you from getting into another fantasy relationship again Good men are definitely out there waiting to meet a woman like you. Once you start dating others, you will soon forget about the man who dared to waste six months of your life or how you allowed that to happen. You deserve a real relationship, face-to-face, holding hands, dancing together. You deserve to make love in person with a warm, caring, loving man who is relationship ready and not hiding behind technology. Please let go and free yourself up to find a real love and a healthy relationship. This one is not only a dead end, but a terrible waste of your love and kindness. You deserve the real thing ladies. But would quite happily use me to boost his ego. Eventually I confronted him, asked him what he was hiding l suspect another woman he was very defensive and nasty. Girls, if you are in this situation you are wasting your time, you deserve more, ultimately we get treated the way we allow ourselves to be treated. Most of the men that do this are married or in a relationship and just using you, stringing you along for their own benefit. As I say to all women asking about a long distance chatting relationship — why bother? Who wants to pay twice as much? You may have a great chat buddy, but this will never be a real life romance. The connection was electric and we spent days talking about every topic under the sun. He promised to book a flight to visit, but as the arrival approached I got concerned as he had not booked a flight or hotel. When I plucked up the courage to confront him, he got defensive and said I was irrational for asking. I find that hard to believe. With an argument over the matter, all plans have been cancelled. Was I wrong to question his motives and mistrust him? I feel like I am being gas lighted and that he is using my confrontation as an excuse to make this my fault and not his. Are my instincts right? I am starting to doubt myself. This is a virtual relationship — much like fantasy and a lot of men who do this are married and hiding by talking long distance. Why not get yourself a real boyfriend and stop wasting time texting? I always ask him to have video call on weekends but never succeeded what does it mean? My instinct tells me that what he sent me pictures was not him. He always says I love you and I miss you but never in action I mean like no surprise call. I was near him for 3 months and he never asked to see me although he always asked where i was, what i was doing etc. He was on fb and liked every single picture or post. He gave excuses for not meeting — he wanted to talk more, his job schedule, I was far from his part of town, etc. I know he is worried about getting bald. Only with hats or older pictures when he was younger. I thought he was worried about that. I returned to my country and he asked me for a picture. I deleted him from my fb and messenger. It felt so real talking to him, but it was all fake I guess. We talked for about 10 months total. If he wanted to see you, he would ask. Move on to find a man who wants to go on dates and spend time with you. We have had like 3 phone calls but I have always initiated them. I always make hints at meeting up but he either changes topic or just ignores it, so I gave up on asking. He quit the month before I did. We have been talking for a month now almost daily on phone and had plans to meet up but were cancelled due to my time or his time. Last Friday I told him to get free time and then make a plan and until then not to talk to me. He drop texted saying he is sorry. We both stay and work in the same city away from our own families. I thought maybe due to financial crunch he might be hesitant to meet up as he was off work for a month but, I think he is misleading me. I live in West Europe and he in Canada.. Hopefully I get a response soon. He lives in another country and you have never met him. You THINK you know everything about him but you know what he WANTS you to know. You have a virtual relationship and that is NOT true love. I bet you read a bunch of articles about this problem. For goodness sakes you are in school where you will never meet more men in your life! Stop wasting time on this illusion of a boyfriend now and please move on. There is absolutely NO HOPE to meet this guy. I tell my clients a man has 7 days to set a date, after that MOVE ON! You are feeding his ego and he repays that by stringing you along. Look for a guy locally if you want a real relationship. This virtual stuff does NOT work out.
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