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This is from a girl who dated a guy, who kept saying that Beyonce looked like a man. At first I tried to ignore it, but then I just kept getting the feeling that he was gay. I mean, no one said you had to marry her, or even that the everyday Black women that you may see in your small town LOOKS like Beyonce. But I live in DC, where there are A LOT of very Eurocentric looking and acting (privileged) Black people-mostly Ethiopians and biracial Black people. And when this guy said that I just thought, TOTALLY GAY.

 

October 14, 2009 at 11:55 am

WB says:

The comment on scammers skewing the figures for white males is a worthwhile comment.

 

October 14, 2009 at 12:55 pm

BorgCollective says:

Even if it is a “preference” as everyone is so quick to insist, you have to understand that these “preferences” reinforce racial segregation along dating lines. Don’t take it personally, but this country has a Major problem with race, other ethnicities… A lot of people coasting on “white” right now would not have been “in” 50-100 years ago. Italian and Irish Americans have come a long way in being accepted as white. Perhaps our current President is making other minorities more acceptable as well – I definitely felt that people were more relaxed and open-minded (in an interracial dating sense) after the election.

 

It would be a wasted opportunity if we allow these stats to just trigger a knee-jerk reaction and go to waste – or to stigmatize OKC users specifically. It’s a bigger problem than that. My worry is that a lot of people come to this country (or were brought here) and work really hard to assimilate – in the past that has granted grudging acceptance. But sometimes it just feels like progress is SO SLOW and peoples’ resistance to diversity so thick! It feels at times that no matter how hard you work, or how American you get, how much of your own culture you discard or disdain, there really is no prize at the end, it doesn’t matter what you do – because the way you look you will never be “in”