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51108spirits October 6, 2011 at 9:51 pm

I don’t mind if a woman tries to get acquainted with me first before any dating happens, but if she actually says “let’s be friends first”, I’ll laugh and not take her seriously at all.

 

52Susan Walsh October 6, 2011 at 10:08 pm

I don’t mind if a woman tries to get acquainted with me first before any dating happens, but if she actually says “let’s be friends first”, I’ll laugh and not take her seriously at all.

 

Just to be clear: Friendship is not the goal. The strategy is not about establishing friendship first and working slowly toward something more. Rather, friendship may be a means to an end, an opportunity to give consistent IOIs that is less threatening and intense than serious escalation by a female. I’ll agree with other commenters that a short period of time should be enough to establish a flirty vibe. If it doesn’t happen, FIDO.

 

53Anacaona October 6, 2011 at 10:45 pm

 Interestingly enough, he ended up married less than 2 years later to an objectively hotter girl (who he hadn’t met yet).  They met online.

 

Heh had I mentioned that I didn’t told my now husband then LDR that I was a model till he was with me personally in the first trip? It was because a) I though he wouldn’t believe me “so you watch star trek by day and model by night? Yeah right I’m the king of England” and b) I was afraid he will think I was stupid I mean I could had copy pasted all my answer in the net, right? Yes is stupid in hindsight but I have an overactive imagination that can get overboard.Still he was pleasantly surprised and now he got that Christmas a very pretty woman in a bikini in a calendar and I can’t be jealous of her ;)

 

I would second A’s suggestion for the girl to befriend him. I suspect that guys try to befriend girls in attempt to spark romance because this is what works on them.

 

Mmm I don’t recomend this one. I personally have a friendzone like Fort Knox you might as well tell me you are my long lost brother. I really can’t move a guy from it on my own no matter how much I try, thankfully it hasn’t happened that much but still the only time that actually felt attraction for a friend was when he was away for over a year and in our first meeting he cried in front of me. I’m a sucker for the sensitive type so for me it was very surprising finding myself crushing for him. Of course I never made a move out of being my friend and thinking it was not very nice of me, but then I was a blue pill woman so for me it was a shitty thing to do to a friend back then.

 

Although I ask the hubby, my resident shy guy, and even if he admits that he has friendzoned women, he says that if the guy is timid anything is better than sitting and hoping he will notice and that yes shy men don’t notice IOI so tell him, ask him out, hug him dogsquat style, be his friend… whatever just don’t sit and hope that will get you nothing.

 

54Matt C October 6, 2011 at 11:18 pm

2. To attract fairly dominant guys: