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What is making people throw up their arms in frustration is a simple fact that, frankly, many of us already knew before we saw this data — dating preferences are not distributed equally. Women of all backgrounds find white men more attractive. Men from all backgrounds find Asian and white women more attractive.

 

Now stop here.

 

Tell me, honestly, that you don’t see a problem in any of this. And by this, I’m not talking about your personal preferences, but rather the aggregate whole of everybody’s preferences. Can you sit there and say that it is OK, natural, healthy, etc. for certain race/gender combinations to be valued above others? Surely we can all agree there’s something wrong with that, EVEN IF we’re not doing anything wrong personally.

 

I will fully admit that I am at the bottom of the dating totem pole, and yeah I knew it before I saw this data. And, like I said, I bet other people who are posting right now knew it before they saw the data too. We’ve known our entire lives that our society/culture does not deem us as attractive as other people. If we’re brave, we’ve probably even tried to communicate our concerns to other people. Imagine how frustrating it is, when actual data is presented to validate our claims, that people just get defensive and dismissive.

 

Get real, everybody. You don’t have to do anything about what’s happening, but at least give our experiences some respect and admit that something is happening.

 

October 14, 2009 at 8:34 pm

TheVoiceOfReason says:

Thanks Richard it seems like we have a serious case of denial going on here. It’s not just a river in Egypt. People need to take accountability for their internalized racist beliefs. The buck stops at you! Quit passing it.