There has been a rise in the popularity and number of Thai dating sites in the last two years, the majority, unsurprisingly, centered on western men meeting Thai women. Whether this is because Thai women are increasing in popularity, or whether they are becoming increasingly web savvy, isn't clear. I think it's a bit of both. It's a great thing though, and many fruitful relationships materialise through this way of meeting. I personally know a number of couples who've met through online dating, and a number of single, English-speaking Thai women active on these sites. That said, you should be as cautious about the online dating process in Thailand as you would in your own country. While you should be cautious, be excited too! This is now the preferred way to meet women, and in many respects it's better than nightclubs, bars and personal introductions, which can often turn into a nightmare. Many men travelling on business or coming for a holiday in the region find a date for their visit online. In this post, I'm going to give you some of my top tips for using Thai dating sites, and provide you with a comparison and overview of my experience with the 6 top sites. Engage with the person you're interested in over a good month or two before arranging a meet. This gives you time to be confident that they are who they say they are. Never send money to someone you have never met, no matter the excuse they give. There are scammers in every country, and Thailand is no exception. How to Avoid Bargirls on Thai Dating Sites Like any other single woman, many bar girls — both those having sex for money and those solely working in the entertainment industry as a dancer or hostess — are looking for a partner. Be aware that many of these girls are serial daters, and probably have a man in every port, so to speak. Such women are also likely to have children from previous relationships. Start off on the right foot and seek a woman that shares your interests, values and intentions. Can I Find Women Just Looking for Sex? Though you could check out the last recommendation in my list below. That said, these experiences will vary by site, as you can find out in the reviews below. Operated by Cupidmedia, a company that owns many other dating sites in a broad range of ethnic niches, TC is probably the most well known dating site for foreign men seeking Thai women. If you want a broad selection of genuine women with a decent job, 21-40 years old, this site is a good place to begin. On my most recent sign-in I found 2,136 people online, and over 1,000 active profiles for the aforementioned age group. Like all dating sites, functionality is restricted to the membership you have. Thai Cupid is free to join, but with free you can only send 1 message every 15 minutes and you won't be able to message all members some have restricted profiles that only paid members can view. This is a tad frustrating because you have to wait for the response too. But hey, it's free! Send a message, make a cup of tea.. Free membership won't get you video chat either, which is a great feature to use once you've established a connection with someone. The better your membership level also determines how far up in the search results your profile will appear; so bear in mind that those extra few dollars can make a big difference to your success. This translates messages for both parties, preventing cross wires and assisting in breaking down the language barrier. For an extra few dollars I'd say it's worth it to be able to communicate face-to-face with a potential dream date! Click on the image above to visit the ThaiCupid website. The site is popular because it caters for a slightly different crowd to ThaiCupid. I always think approaching dating too seriously can land you in as much hot water as going in too loosely, so to speak. Searching around I got the distinct feeling a few of the profiles I saw were women playing away from home, which may well appeal to some. One potential downside, depending on your preference, is the prevalence of ladyboys using the site. It's a very active community and lots of fun. ThaiFriendly is free to register and there's no obligation for a paid membership. You can begin sending messages straight away, but bear in mind that to begin chatting on instant messenger and have live chats you'll need to upgrade. The pricing structure hasn't changed much in the last 5 years. If you are seeking to start a long-distance relationship, you might also do well to consider Asian Dating because you are location-independent, so to speak — you might meet an Asian lady in your home country, or a country other than Thailand. By nature, this makes AsianDating a place with a diverse membership and some fantastic single women to chat with. Like sister site ThaiCupid, Asiandating is also owned by CupidMedia, and is very popular with expats living in Thailand, Singapore, Malaysia, and China, and also guys living in the US and UK. The membership pricing and functions unlocked by upgrading from free to a paid plan is essentially the same as ThaiCupid but a bit cheaper. This may be intentional, as it does appeal to a slightly older crowd — think 35+ females. That said, it's easy to navigate and the overall simplicity will appeal to non-tech savvy users. There were just shy of 260,000 members when I last browsed around, and just over 600 people online. That's nowhere near the level of members as the first three sites in this list. However, TLL is well-established because of its age, so it does have a loyal user-base some of the members have been looking for luurve a long time and attract a moderate number of new members. Of course it's free to look around at profiles and send some messages, but you'll need to upgrade to get access to full profile viewing, email, instant messaging and the Skype chat feature you need to have Skype to use this. Pricing: The pricing is a tad cheaper than ThaiCupid or ThaiFriendly but this is reflected in the lack of professionalism in the execution of the interface and service in general. That said, it's simple and no frills and has a moderate database of attractive profiles. It's centred around travel and fun and aimed at the solo male traveler who wants a companion for adventure, not necessarily someone serious who wants love or long-term partnership. Though it could turn into that. An attractive girl on your arm for two weeks as you travel the Land of Smiles! I think this concept will suit those who want to focus on their travels, with romance and companionship of secondary importance. I personally don't think this is for those seeking a meaningful relationship, as it is likely to attract girls just out for a free trip, fine wine and frolics and fun, which is great if that's what you want. Click on the image above to visit the MizzThai website. Okay, so Smooci is not your traditional dating platform, but a few people in the comments have asked for this type of dating while on holiday, so I've added it to the list. It's certainly worth a mention — and I guess no date is ever really free, anyway, right? But it also serves a purpose for those who don't enjoy spending time in the bar scene, or just don't like the very public concept of bar-based negotiations. Think of Smooci like Uber but for paid dating: You register an account, type in your preferences and how long you want to spend together, choose your date from the matches given, and then track her progress, with the precise location of your date and her estimated time of arrival displayed on the screen. Before you book, you can read the reviews of others, and rate your experience afterwards. I think this service is quite innovative, and may be a positive for both parties going forward. It also enables women working in this side of dating to have more autonomy over their work. They can work when they choose to and aren't beholden to the demands of the bar. I wouldn't recommend it for meeting the love of your life, though! Click on the image above to visit the Smooci website. Remember: people seldom spend time writing about how great their relationship is, which means you tend only to read about the bad experiences online. Thai women on the whole are like most women, amazing! Trust me, I know — I married one. If you met your partner on a Thai dating site, please feel free to share your experiences in the comments section below. Will try something more sustainable and lasting next visit. Good advice to communicate on-line for a few months in advance of meeting. Had a good time with her when we finally met. Love takes time patience look and some diligence. After losing my wife of twenty years to lung disease, waiting a year and using Smooci. Thanks for the intro! That being said, my experience is this: is much more for older men looking to marry and settle down. Almost all of the women on there are oriented towards long-term relationships and support and usually will say so. However, it seems to me to that many of the profiles are bots. Many girls will even put their Line ID in their profiles or send it to you if they are interested. The amount of profile info is very little, but that might be some of its appeal. What site is probably the real thing, if i only want sex? I am not after relationship or marry. I just want women for sex. Maybe women who did not have sex for a long time. If I would live in Australia I have so many who wanted sex dating with me and nothing more, and I could have one every day. Is there some site like this for men and women looking for no relationship but sex only. Is there one for MILFS, I mean older ladies that want to have that special again in their lonely life. I guess it is different here. By the way I like your comments about all the dating sites. You could try for that, but be upfront about what you are looking for, i. But in this situation I think you have to be prepared to at least wine and dine the lady; go out to a restaurant, or even away for the weekend. This is quite common in the UK, US, Aus and elsewhere. The idea would be that you pay for a lady to accompany you on a trip and you pay the hotel, meals, etc, and then the romance becomes a part of that. REO WEED, I am in Australia and wonder where are those sites where could you find a lady everyday for sex? Please kindly share those sites. I am in Sydney by the way and just looking for casual sex dates or one night stands. Thai Friendly by far the best for the younger girls 22-28. This is the best information out there. I am going to Phuket for 3 weeks in Nov. I have been married 3 times. I lived in Honduras. Beautiful girls, but after living and dating there for 5 years I got married and came back to the states. The 1stone was great, perfect wife but her kids became a problem and we broke up. Part of it is my fault. I went out with them for 18 to 23 or so got married and as they matured they wanted different things. But the last one when I told her I was taking her home waited until the date before she was to go home called the police, said I had held her hostage for 5 months beat here daily that I was an assassin for Pablo Escobar and on and on. I was arrested, charge were of course dropped. But now that is on my record for domestic violence. Thanks for your reply by email. I did reply back but not sure you got it so posting here. The best Thai dating site in my opinion is defo. Hoping to visit in the summer. An update on this: I reported it to both customer service at TLL and security. To avoid this happening to you: stay on site; note if the replies appear to be copy and pasted — not specific to the conversation; be suspicious if they want to shift to another site; ask them to video — the TLL site is video capable. Basically Truly Thai are posting profiles on other sites in a bid to lure guys over to their site and pay a subscription. I have reported it to TC, TF, MT and TLL. Heard back from TC and TF, both of whom are aware of this and are looking into what they can do to stop it. One simple rule is not to be lured off site! Hi, I have just visited ThaiCupid which expects you to scan your id as proof. The problem with this is I do not want to give my real name but with id I cannot disguise. What do others feel? Also, I notice all talk is generally for western men. What Thai women think of Asian men obviously non-Thai? Thanks, Rob That is to verify your identity and to prevent scammers using the site. In terms of Asian men, different strokes for different folks. Many Thai women prefer Asian men over western men and vice versa. I saw a couple of ladies I wanted to contact but was cut off until I paid up. The approach of the site worried me and I gave up. What has your experience been? Out of the bunch it seems the one that cares the most about security and confidentiality, which in this day and age when joining a website is very important. First off, thanks for the article. Made it really easy to get started! ThaiFriendly seems to have a lot more ladyboys, which is not really my thing, but there are tons of downright gorgeous real girls using the site regularly. The main downside is there is no profile info for English language ability, and the search is a bit limited past age, height, and location. Educated career ladies like to let loose occasionally to. I signed up for ThaiFriendly about a month ago. Most of these have contacted me, as opposed to the other way around. So if you want to find quality women looking for a real relationship, you can certainly do that at this site. And also, I must say I am stunned every time I go into the site with the beauty of these Thai women. I have tried some of these sites But I found None. Would like to try again, I am always at home. I also think online dating in Thailand is the same as it is in any other country; very hit and miss, and takes a good while and a good number of dates before you find someone suitable. As with pretty much all good dating sites, Thai Friendly is free only at a basic level. The subscription fees are as follows: Basic service: Free. ThaiCupid is the best site to meet professional, educated Thai women, as well as down to earth, reliable women looking for a genuine relationship. As a big brand they have a serious development team constantly working to deliver better usability and enhanced features. In my opinion it all depends on what type of relationship you are looking for. I have spent a good amount of time on the top 3 mentioned, thailovelinks is far superior if you actually want to know whom it is your interested in, much more info! Thaifriendly has a HUGE % of prostitutes, in fact nude photos are not allowed on TLLinks. I have had a profile on thaifriendly about 8 months, 600 emails and about only 50 from girls wanting a relationship BUT not one has contacted me. In a week as free member on TLLinks, I had MANY good girls contact me. Hey, Nice and in-depth post. Another way to identify bar girls on the sites is their photos. I meet girls within 24hrs of speaking to them on the dating sites. What girls say on their profile and what they actually want and do are different things. Personally never tried Facebook to meet girls I might like to date. All the best, Marc.