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I really respect these thoughts. Seriously. I wish I had done more of these things in my marriage. I definitely feel I wan't as good as I could have been. I can't speak for all guys but we are a tad bit egocentric at times. I guess I always thought she knew how I felt. Sort of thought it would work if my actions spoke louder than words. Nope. I think we men need to do a better job of verbalizing. Not becoming major whipped wimps, but just letting our significant others know that they mean the world to us, that we appreciate what they do in our lives, that we really do care and that they are incredibly sexy and lovely to us.

6susanawalsh July 11, 2009 at 7:44 am
OK, this is going to sound weird and a little creepy, but I got a little teary when I read your comment. I am really moved by your willingness to share so openly and honestly. Your wisdom and understanding has come from experience; life's a brutal teacher. But you are one evolved guy emotionally, this is really what women want. You don't have to make a lot of money, you don't have to be perfect, you don't need to be obsessed with us. You just have to value us and remember to let us know.

7Name July 12, 2009 at 6:21 pm
Thanks for the kind words. Suppose I have evolved, but at the cost of a marriage. Problem was I was a major tool early in our marriage, no doubt about that. By the time I realized things had gone wrong I tried to fix it, but it was too late. The problem with me at a younger age was that I was well, cocky. Young, smart, nice looking with a good job. Women flirted with me nonstop even though they knew I was married. It goes to your head. Problem is your wife is working and taking you for granted too. She gets attention from other tools through her work. Talk about karma. What's good for the goose is for the gander? Something like that. Bottom line, your words hit home, but I think the underlying theme you have developed of respect, appreciation and communication goes for women as well as men.

8susanawalsh July 13, 2009 at 5:30 am
It's so true. Honestly, I'm finding that almost everything I write with women in mind applies equally to men. I know because men like you are making a point of commenting, emailing, etc. In the case of a post like this one, I wish I knew how to advise women about what men really want to hear! Maybe it's just as simple as appreciating your partner, and making a point of letting them know.

9Duck Man July 13, 2009 at 12:22 pm
And you write, “…and they [men] tend to generalize that all women want is for them to act like emasculated slaves to our emotional demands.”

You make me chuckle. Is that line written to infer that women don’t want men to act as emasculated slaves and want something else instead? Something we’ve misread and have been missing all along? The little secret? Or does it infer that plus, women want that AND the wallet and the brains. Dominate me!!! Please!!!