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@ Clarance: You are right, context is key. And the motivations in question were purely out of curiosity, and I guess partially sexual frustration. The best way I could describe it is it being an experiment. We both know a lot of people who sleep around, and after being single for a very, very long time she tried it out to see how she would feel about it (after reading all of these feminist empowering stories about sex and doing what you want, should have sent her to HUS first!) turns out, she absolutely hated it. Obviously I don’t think the guy and her had any chemistry either, because she didn’t keep doing it. Maybe it was a blessing in disguise that the sex didn’t turn out wonderful, cause this one experience was enough to turn her off from it for good.

Something to also consider is this girl was a virgin before this happened and single for all of her life. Shakes this up a little bit, huh? She just never ran across the right guy. And I think she also had very twisted and jaded views on sex at that point…not good, but like PJL said, she grew from the experience, A LOT. And her views on sex changed even moreso (I feel for the better) after the whole situation. She knew that she wasn’t going to emotionally attach herself to the guy because in her head, she THOUGHT she knew exactly what she wanted. She felt like the time was right to lose her virginity contextually, he wanted to have sex with her and I doubt much else. So they used each other. I guess it turned out a little bit unbalanced cause he kept asking her out afterward (although always last minute, and at his convenience, in a FWB way…he wouldn’t text her otherwise) but she straightened things out fast before she led him on too far. Does she regret it? I’m not sure. When you hear the story on its on, of course the first thing you want to do is chastise her (what were you thinking?! how could you give it away to someone you didn’t even love?) but I try to be open minded, and I don’t want to judge her for it. A potential mate, however, I don’t know what he would say or think. I just hope that one little blip in her life (and all girls who have been through similar situations) wouldn’t ruin her chances of marriage or a happy LTR for good. The difference between her and other reformed “sluts” I guess, is that she whipped her behavior around instantly. It didn’t take her 10 guys to realize that this wasn’t working. It only took one.

/end novel

Mani says:
August 18, 2010 at 11:59 am
And @Clarance: Haha, although that may be true about men in the chauvinistic and (extreme) religious manosphere, I’d like to hope that the men on HUS are a ~little more understanding and intelligent than to be so quick to label a girl that, especially when there’s more to the story :)
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Hope being the operative word…
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(I don’t think any girl would want to date someone in the chauvinistic manosphere anyway)